Paradigms (your perspective) – What You See Is What You Get. – The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
Surely everyone has heard the saying, “you don’t know someone until you have walked in their shoes.” If you haven’t, then now you have! But the way this quote is worded is using a metaphor, a comparison of a person’s shoes for their actual paradigm (pair-uh-dime). In other words, their perspective of the world, how their own optical lens is seeing and interpreting the events and adventures of the human race. Now, I can almost guarantee that you have at some point in your life said to yourself, “I can’t do this anymore,” or “why is this happening to me?” Well, I am about to change your life and change your paradigm because coming up are the ways to construct a new perspective, a new life.
To start, there are different classes of paradigms, such as, paradigms of oneself, paradigms of others, and paradigms of life. It is key that you understand these, as it will become clear on how to recognize and solve them in your own life. A few paradigms of oneself among teenagers, for instance, is perceiving yourself as not perfect, too fat, unpopular, or ugly. On the other hand, you may have a perspective that a certain person at your school is perfect, popular, or skinny. And finally, according to the life paradigm, you may perceive your overall life to be sucky. More specifically, we can arrange life paradigms into centers, including: parent-centered, education-centered, and friend-centered. With this understanding in mind, we can further tackle how to precisely change our perspective on the world.
So let’s take a look at a few paradigms, center them, then evaluate each to see how we can actually alter our perspective and remove the negative glasses from our eyes.
1. In high school, I always thought of myself as having no friends. We can translate this to a friend-centered, life paradigm. Now, if we use the self-fulfilling prophecy, it means that if we believe we have no friends then, we will purposely isolate ourselves and it will become true. Solution? Tell yourself you have friends, and surround yourself with people to meet new people!
2. Another example is if we believe we can never get an A in a certain class. Same routine here, self-fulfilling prophecy of the education-centered, life paradigm. We view ourselves as not good enough to get an A. So tell yourself you are good enough, then dive into the books and challenge yourself to get that A because you know you can do it! Don’t just stop at the books though! Check out my post about how to hack your grades here! Also, get a tutor, talk with the teacher and your friends.
3. The last example we will go into is if you see yourself as the most overused phrase by teenagers, the dreaded, “I’m fat.” A paradigm of oneself and can be solved by the self-fulfilling prophecy. If you tell yourself you are fat, then you are going to think it, and believe it. Try instead asking your good friends what they think! You may be surprised what their paradigms of you are! If you do not want to talk to your friends about it you can use a BMI chart. Just add some information like your height, weight, and waist size. I bet more than half of the people who believe they are fat, are not actually according to the BMI chart. To those that are, check with your doctor before you worry, then look into the self-fulfilling prophecy! Believe in yourself that you can lose weight and work hard! There are many resources on the internet that can help you tackle this obstacle.
Therefore, instead of telling yourself a negative thought, recognize the thought, then tackle the self-fulfilling prophecy by telling yourself YOU CAN DO IT. Did you know there were a lot of people that believed we would never reach the Moon and that it was physically impossible? Well, some engineers and believers removed that perspective from their mind and WORKED HARD to accomplish their goals. In essence, next time you encounter a negative paradigm, evaluate it and change it.
To close, our lives can be much more positive if we live by principles and not paradigms. Principles such as, hard work, integrity, honesty, fairness, moderation, loyalty, and gratitude. Are you being loyal, honest, and giving gratitude to others so people want to be friends with you? Are you truly working as hard as you can to get the A in your class? Are you being fair and honest with yourself when you call yourself fat in the mirror? I challenge you to live a principle life! I challenge you to wake up every morning and look in the mirror and say, “I can make friends,” “I can get an A,” or “I look great today.”
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